Pregnant women worry about a lot of things. Okay, women in general, tend to worry about a lot of things. It is the nature of our being to be overly concerned with the what ifs, when, and whys.
If there is one piece of advice from my mother-in-law that I will probably always remember, it’s this.
Why worry? What do you get out of it? When you can’t change the situation the only thing you can do is give it to the Lord.
“Okay Mar, thank you”, I will reply. But she’s right ya know. Her 70-something years have got one thing on me, and that’s a lot of situations that would potentially cause a lot of worry. So, what can I say? The woman has some “street cred” (as my husband would say).
With my tangent aside, what in the world am I talking about here? Well, it’s the silly things that pregnant women worry about. I have been there, mama. And I get it.
But seriously here, these are 5 things pregnant women worry about, but need to stop, right now.
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5 Things Pregnant Women Worry About: And Why You Need to Stop
Stretch Marks During Pregnancy
If I had a nickel for every Google search about preventing stretch marks, I would undoubtedly be a billionaire. No, I don’t work for Google. And no I didn’t even do any keyword researching to actually do that math.
But I know that stretch marks are a huge thing pregnant women worry about. And why?
Because airbrushed models don’t have stretch marks. Stretch marks mean you are fat. They are unsightly. If you take better care of yourself you won’t get stretch marks…
Lies. It is all lies.
Stretch marks happen during pregnancy because you grow fast, and the collagen and elastin in your skin rupture. That causes a scar, AKA a stretch mark.
The American Academy of Dermatology gives a lot of good information about stretch marks and what causes them. More importantly they answer questions such as, “Can anything prevent stretch marks?” and “What can get rid of stretch marks?”.
Are stretch marks preventable during pregnancy?
The long and short of it is, some people are more genetically predisposed to getting stretch marks during pregnancy. It all has to do with your genetics.
Some women have skin that is more likely to get stretch marks simply because of their genes. And there is nothing you can do about that. (See my previous statement about giving it to the Lord.)
There is no sense in worrying about things you can’t change. God did not create us to be perfect. So stop comparing yourself to the unrealistic images of airbrushed models.
Do lotions/creams/oils work to prevent stretch marks during pregnancy?
If using coconut oil, cocoa butter, vitamin E oil, or whatever other item you have makes you feel better about trying to prevent stretch marks during pregnancy, then by all means. But, in reality, these creams and oils aren’t going to stop stretch marks from happening.
When stretch marks form they may cause some irritation to your skin, and therefore these lotions and oils may help with those symptoms. But in terms of actually preventing the stretch marks from occurring, it is not likely.
And I know at least half of you reading this will have encountered someone along the way that swears by a certain product. “I used (insert product) and I did not get a single stretch mark for all 4 of my pregnancies.”
Listen Linda, that woman wasn’t going to get a stretch mark even if she didn’t use the miracle product she swears by. I’d be willing to bet money. She can thank her genes, not her tummy butter.
Now, hear me thoroughly on this one. Because there is obviously a lot of importance to being healthy and maintaining a healthy weight.
When you are pregnant the amount of weight you should gain is as follows:
The American Pregnancy Association displays this the best.
- For women of average weight before pregnancy, with a BMI of 18.5-24.9, the recommended weight guideline is 25-35 lbs.
- Women who are underweight pre-pregnancy, with a BMI less than 18.5, should gain between 28 and 40 lbs.
- Overweight women, with a BMI of 25-29 before pregnancy, should gain between 15-25 lbs.
- Obese women, with a pre-pregnancy BMI greater than 30+, should aim for 11-20lbs of weight gain.
Potential Complications of Excessive Weight Gain During Pregnancy
There are potential complications that can occur during pregnancy with excessive weight gain. And that is why a woman’s weight will be monitored closely with every doctor’s visit.
- Gestational Diabetes
- Cesarean Delivery
- Preterm Delivery
These are some of the complications to be aware of with excessive weight gain. Women who are overweight prior to pregnancy have a greater risk of developing complications.
When to Stop Worrying So Much About Pregnancy Weight Gain
If you are of a healthy weight prior to pregnancy and maintain a regular level of activity, you can probably stop worrying so much about gaining weight during pregnancy.
You are going to gain weight, mama. It is inevitable.
Your baby adds weight. The placenta adds weight. Your body increases the amount of fluid and circulating blood volume during pregnancy. All of that adds weight.
As long as you maintain a relatively healthy diet and moderate daily level of activity, you will be okay mama. It’s okay to have a couple extra cookies and not feel guilty.
You will see the numbers go up on the scale. It is all part of growing an entire new life inside your belly.
Will I have Saggy Boobs After Breastfeeding?
A lot of what I like to talk about at Mind of Mom, revolves around breastfeeding. Why? Because it is an amazing thing our bodies can do!
Not only can our bodies support and grow another life inside of us, but we can continue to sustain that life for months after birth.
When a mother plans to exclusively breastfeed their baby, there are many things she will tend to worry about.
- What will breastfeeding be like?
- How do I know if my baby is getting enough milk?
- When do I need to start pumping?
- How will I manage breastfeeding, pumping, and working?
- I want to save breast milk in the freezer, but don’t know how to start.
When you first start breastfeeding, it can be a huge learning curve. Both you and your baby have never done this before. You may have some latch problems or nipple pain. Or it could go smoothly.
Of all the questions or worries you may have about breastfeeding when you are pregnant, the biggest thing to put out of your mind right now is “Will my boobs be saggy after breastfeeding?”.
The Reality of Your Body After Baby
Your body is going through a lot of changes during pregnancy. It’s doing a lot of work growing this new little life. And the reality of that is, there are going to be a lot of changes you will see on your body.
Breastfeeding is the best source of nutrition for your baby.
But, will you have saggy boobs if your breastfeed? You might. Or you could bounce back to a relatively normal pre-pregnancy state.
When you are providing your child with their sole source of nutrition, let that be your focus. There is little purpose in focusing your energy on superficial things.
Delivery Ruining your Vagina
This is a fear I have heard time and time again. There is some legitimacy to this concern, in terms of tearing. And it may take some extended time to heal after delivering your baby.
But rest assured, mama. Deliver will not “ruin” your vagina. Like any other wound, you will heal.
This is a big thing pregnant women worry about. But consider the product of all of the pain you go through. Your beautiful baby. Keep your focus on what matters.
Expensive Baby Registry Items
I’m certain I was no different than you may be. Wanting to get the best possible items for your baby. Pregnant women worry about getting everything they need (and everything they don’t).
There is an endless amount of baby items out there. And for first time moms it can be overwhelming to weed out the things you don’t really need.
The most expensive bassinet does not necessarily mean it’s the best. You don’t really need a warmer for the baby wipes. The hot water from the sink works just as well to warm up a bottle, instead of a bottle warming contraption.
Talk with other moms who have been there. Ask what is really essential in their opinion. Don’t get caught up in the lights and sounds, so to speak.
Baby’s have a few basic needs. Food. Warmth. Being dry and clean. Being nurtured. Keep that in mind before you go spending tons of money on things you may not even use.
Here are 10 baby items that I really like and would recommend to any new moms looking for suggestions.
The things pregnant women worry about need to change.
We take on a lot of stress and worry as women. It’s just the way we are wired to be. During pregnancy, our hormones certainly don’t help the worrying. But try to keep your focus on what’s really important, mama.
Your health, and the health of your little baby brewing are the most important things right now. So when I say things that pregnant women worry about needs to change, this is why.
Put your focus on what really counts, and everything else won’t seem so big. And there is no good in worrying about things you can’t change.