Jumping into new mom territory is kind of something no one can really prepare you for. Sure, you can read page after page of all the best books. You can scroll endlessly on Pinterest for all the things you need. But to say that you can be truly prepared to become a mom, would be a lie.
Life before baby is completely different. I don’t think we can fully comprehend what it will be like to have kids, until we do.
Having such a drastic life change can be stressful. To say the least. Now, don’t get me wrong here. There is nothing comparable to the love you will have for your kids, but becoming a new mom is far from easy.
This little life depends on you, now. And it’s going to be a lot to handle at times. But here is one really important tip to help you keep your sanity as a new mom.
The #1 New Mom Tip to Keep Your Sanity
Get better at asking for help.
If I could travel back in time to when my baby was first born, this would be the biggest piece of advice I would give myself. (That and, girl you need to shower. The baby will be fine.)
But seriously, being a mom is hard. There are a million things you learn. And a million more things you need to juggle every day.
You are sleep deprived. It is not always practical to “sleep when the baby sleeps”. If you want to get anything at all done, at least.
If you are breastfeeding, that’s an entire new skill you need to learn. All the while keeping this little life alive. (Again, without sleep).
And you can’t ignore the fact that you need some form of nutrition as well. Finding time and energy to make food (see above statement about being sleep deprived).
It is a common theme amongst new moms to want to be able to do it all. We want to be the best mom, super mom… Am I wrong?
A great deal of pride comes into play when it comes to taking care of our babies. The mom is the do-all queen.
A lot of influence comes from society. The standards that are held for moms can be hugely intimidating.
But it is so important to remember one thing… your sanity.
It is okay if you can’t do it all. You really can’t be expected to breastfeed your baby around the clock, sleep for 10 minutes at a time, go grocery shopping, make dinner, clean the house, do the dishes, do the laundry, exercise, etc. etc. etc.
It is imperative to ask for help, mama.
This is the thing I am worst at. Asking for help does not come easily for me. And I am confident in saying, that going through the newborn stage would have been much easier had I asked for more help.
So don’t feel ashamed, mama. Don’t feel like you aren’t super mom just because you ask for help.
Asking for help isn’t being any less of a mom. It is actually just the opposite.
You want the world for your baby, and sometimes you need a little help giving it to them.
I hope you keep that in mind the next time you are ready to break down in tears out of shear exhaustion and frustration. Sometimes you can’t do it all, and that’s okay.
You got this!